saveyourselffinance

Offering Help Nobody Wants

Like many aging parents, mine never need help. With anything. Ever.

Slow the F&@k Down

In all my years of director-level work, I have never been asked to slow down. It’s always been: Speed up. Go faster. Off the cliff. Now, do it again

All By Myself: The Perks of Solo Travel

I love to travel. Alone. I enjoy making all the decisions or no decisions at all. When I travel alone, I like to just sit in an outdoor café and people watch. Or sit on a park bench and people watch. I often do simple things.

(Sort of) Home for the Holidays

Whenever I want to break my Mom’s heart, here’s how I do it: I go home for the holidays and then book a hotel during my stay. Let the guilt trip begin.

No New Debt

My Holiday Goal: No New Debt

Stressed But Blessed

While stress has taken over my life in recent weeks, I am careful to also count my financial blessings.

Listening Without Offering

When my loved ones have financial struggles, I can offer them advice, but I can’t offer them money. I have to set boundaries.

I Quit: One Year Later

A year ago, I quit my job during a pandemic. I never panicked. I thought I would, but I didn’t. Here’s what I did.

Too Chicken to Fly: The High Cost of Fear

My fear of flying is costing me, financially. I am embarrassed at what this fear has cost me in canceled flights, unclaimed hotel rooms or tour excursions that went unused.

Decluttering Lives & Maintaining Legacies

I never thought there would come a time when I would see my mother behave like a child. Of course, it’s not her fault. Her world is changing every single day.